6 Unexpected Things Nobody Tells You About Birth | Dubai Birth Photographer

Isn’t it incredible that women are pregnant for nine, sometimes ten months, before they even meet their babies? It’s almost God’s way of preparing us mentally for the incredible journey we are about to go on. Preparing for that journey starts with preparing for childbirth itself, and just like anything in life, unexpected things are almost guaranteed to pop up one way or another. As a birth photographer in Dubai, I’ve learned lots of new and interesting things just by watching on the sidelines, and hence why, I personally think, it is sometimes important to be educated on what to expect, or even better, what are some of the unexpected parts of birth, that most people choose not to talk about.

1. It takes an incredible amount of focus

I always know when a mom has entered the active labor phase, because suddenly, we transition from a woman who is chatty and lively between contractions, to witnessing the pure meaning of intense focus and attention. When labor gets going for real, it is consuming and demanding, but honestly, truly amazing, even otherworldly in it’s own strange way. There are few times in your life where you will know the focus required for this incredibly wild and amazing journey to birth!

2. You will still have contractions after the baby and placenta have been delivered

All the pain and contractions are supposed to end after you deliver your baby, right? Wrong. You will still have some contractions, albeit not at all as painful. This is completely normal. After you deliver your baby, your uterus needs to go back to the size and firmness it was pre-birth. The contractions are nature’s way to ensure that that happens. Here’s the thing though, your body may be doing all the hard work to get this done, but many times your doctor or midwife will also apply a fundal “massage” so that your uterus firms up quicker. This massage is not pleasant, but, believe me, it is necessary.

3. There will be Poop.

I know. It’s embarrassing. But it’s totally normal and natural. Pushing activates the same muscles that humans use when going number 2, so don’t be embarrassed or worried if you poop during labor. Believe me, nobody cares, nobody even blinks an eye, and your care team cleans it up immediately without you even knowing that it happened sometimes. Now, it’s been my experience that some women try to empty out their bladder and intestines prior to birth (to avoid this “poop situation”) by either taking a laxative or sometimes even castor oil. PLEASE DO NOT DO THAT. More often than not, these chemicals will cause your uterus to start contracting, sometimes really painfully, right from the start, putting undue stress and risk on your body and on your baby. So, just embrace the poop. It’s not as dramatic as you think!

4. That water retention theory? It’s not a myth

Labor takes a lot of hard work; you will sweat, you will probably cry, you will definitely pee - in short, you are going to lose a lot of water in the process, and you don’t want to risk getting dehydrated. If you opt for a hospital birth, most hospitals will give the laboring mom an IV during labor to combat dehydration. Well guess what? The day after birth, many women will swell up in their face and/or ankles because of the IV fluids; the body still has a significant amount of blood volume circulating through it (as well as hormones) and would be adjusting to it’s new post-pregnancy state. But don’t worry, the water has to go somewhere, you’ll either pee it all out, but also women may even notice an increase in sweating more after birth. That should take care of it all.

5. You’re going to feel like you’re at a party

And you, darling, are going to be at the center of it, so I hope you like attention :) You’re going to meet and interact with so many different people at the hospital, specially if you have a long birth. You’ll probably be in the middle of many shift changes for hospital staff. The best part? You’ll know when the time is getting closer to meeting your baby; you’ll see a team of staff getting things prepped for your doctor or midwife to use during the delivery. Your partner, doula, nurse, and provider are all focused on you and your little one.

6. Things might not go as planned

This is the hardest part for many laboring moms to wrap their minds around. As you prepare for your childbirth, you educate yourself on all the available options, you get attached to certain things that feel “ideal” to you, things you prefer to happen at the birth of your loved one. Things may not always go as planned, but please be certain that you have every right to speak up, to ask questions and understand why things are happening, the risks associated with certain actions or inactions, and whether there are any alternatives to suggested procedures.

What about you? Did you experience anything during your labor that you weren’t expecting? I’d love to hear more!

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13 of the Best Labor and Birthing Positions for You and Baby | Dubai Birth Photographer

For nine months you prep and plan for baby’s arrival. You read books, watch videos and maybe even take a birthing class or two. But while movies and TV shows have led many of us to believe both labor and delivery happen while lying on your back with your legs spread wide, anyone who’s been through the experience will tell you it doesn’t have to play out that way.

As a birth photographer in Dubai, I’ve had the chance to witness a wide array of birth positions; many women start with one position and often end up delivering in a completely different one. It all depends on the birthing mother’s comfort, her strength and how her body works. So while reading this article can give you some excellent tips, the most important thing to take away is that you should listen to your body, it will tell you exactly what you need to do.

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5 Cool (And Strange!) Things My Clients Packed in their Hospital Bags! | Dubai Birth Photographer

I'm sure that if you're pregnant, and nearly due, you've read at least ONE of the hundreds of posts online talking about what to pack in your hospital bag.. so I won't even go there because many people have written about this much better than I ever could.. at this point, adding to these posts would be information overload in my opinion haha :)

So, what I thought I would do instead, is talk about all the cool (and sometimes strange, but turns out, super useful!) things I've seen some of my clients pack in their hospital bags! So without further adieu, here's the list!

1. Tennis Ball
At first, I was super confused. I mean, we're in a hospital, not on a tennis court, so why in the world would my client have a tennis ball packed in her bag? Well, turns out, when labor intensified, her hubby would use the tennis to massage her lower back when his hands got tired, and, suddenly, what seemed super strange, made complete and total sense!

2. Stress Ball
This made total sense to me, but I must admit, I never thought of it before, so when I saw it being used during labor, I must admit I felt slightly sorry for that little ball. It took quite a beating!

3. Extra Sleeping pillows
We all know hospital pillows are NOT the most comfortable thing in the world. To see that my client actually knew that in advance was super impressive. Needless to say, her hubby was super comfy when it was time to go to sleep because he was all SET UP!

4. Body Pillow
Ok this one was a biggie for me. When I saw it the first thing that came out of my mouth was "GENIUS" A body sleeping pillow becomes a pregnant mom's BEST FRIEND during pregnancy, specially towards the end! One of my super awesome clients tucked herself comfortably into the hospital bed while she labored, and you know what? Not only did it LOOK comfortable, I'm sure it felt amazing to have all her body supported as she labored on her side in bed!

5. Diffusion Fragrance Sticks
When I walked into the last labor I attended, I wasn't sure if I walked into a living room or an actual hospital room. My client re-did the entire room to make it look and feel comfortable for her. But get this, she brought in her favorite scented diffusion sticks, and my God it smelled divine in there. I'm sure this was highly appreciated by the hospital staff as they walked in and out of the room because they kept talking about how lovely it smelled in the room!


Well, that about sums up the coolest hospital bag items things that made me go AHA. I'm definitely going to keep an eye out on this in the future, and who knows, maybe I'll come back and update this blog post again in the future!

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Dilation Of The Cervix – What You Need To Know | Dubai Birth Photographer

Dilation.

This word becomes the center of every pregnant woman's world towards the end of her pregnancy term, which is fair, because dilation determines delivery and you WANT to dilate if you are planning for a natural, vaginal delivery. 

Despite the fact that we, as women, are all physically built the same way, we are all different, because each one of our bodies reacts in a different kind of way to the ebb and flow of the magical hormones circulating in our bodies. So what is "normal" or "standard" for one woman, is not necessarily true for another. And hence why I get really upset when care providers hold women in labor to strict "standards"  (for example, dilation of 1cm/hour) It is completely unrealistic to expect women to navigate through the intricate web of labor; a ride full of emotions, psychology, temperament, past experiences and comfort, and STILL expect a dilation rate of 1cm/hour. It just doesn't make sense!

For me, a big part of comfort is achieved through education and raising awareness. If we as women understand what it takes to achieve "X" in labor (whatever that X represents is personal to you I think) then it will make things a lot less stressful and clear. Which is why I LOVED this article I'm about to share with you

It walks you through:

  • What dilation of the cervix is all about? 
  • The Story behind "Centimetres"
  • Does dilation mean a woman is in labor?
  • How necessary are vaginal exams
  • How fast will a cervix dilate
  • What affects cervix dilation

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What you need to know about Water Birth in Dubai | Dubai Birth Photography

Water is totally my element. I love being in or near the water, and when I found out Al Zahra hospital offers a water birth option a few years ago, I KNEW I will definitely be considering Al Zahra just for that! Water birth is also being offered at other hospitals in the UAE, however, keep in mind that you may be allowed to labor in the water, but not deliver in it. Al Zahra allows for both. Check with your hospital for their exact regulations.

As a birth photographer, I had the honor of covering several water births, and I always come out with a little baby fever right after each one of them. Who knows, maybe my next birth will finally push me over the edge :) click the image below to read the article!

 

 

9 Huge Benefits of Giving Birth Upright | Dubai Birth Photographer

As a birth photographer in Dubai, I choose to surround myself with inspirational images of birth from all around the world. On my Instagram, I follow several birth photographers whose work I love, doulas, midwives, birth associations, to name a few. I am always amazed by all the home birth pictures, videos and stories that I get to see, and how women have so much freedom in HOW they birth that way. I find them especially fascinating because in the UAE, we don't really have that option (to birth at home). Most, if not all, births, by law, should happen inside a medical institution. And for the most part, the regulation is that the birthing mother needs to birth ON the bed unless she is birthing in the water (I, do, however, understand the reasoning behind that in the hospital (hygiene, etc.) )

This isn't to say that birthing upright ON the bed isn't an option :) Click the image below to read the full article on nine huge benefits of birthing upright, and why, if you're pregnant, you should at least attempt to try this at your next labor.

8 Natural & Effective Tips For a Slow Or Stalled Labour | Dubai Birth Photography

"If you’re birthing in a hospital and find that your labour reaches a plateau or stalls, unless you’re informed about what a stalled labour means and what you can do to help yourself, it can become a very anxious time."

From talking to so many pregnant moms, this seems to be one of the biggest fears of things that could go "wrong" during labor. I saw "wrong" because technically it's not exactly wrong, it's a speed bump, and sometimes completely natural as a laboring woman's body adjusts to so many changes over the course of her journey. In September, I covered the birth story of an Abu-Dhabi based first time mom, whose early stage of labor was a little over two days long. Labor seemed to stop and go, get long, get short. It was all over the place. The wonderful midwives at Corniche Hospital took excellent care of her. Despite the fact that she wasn't even in active labor yet, they allowed her to stay in the hospital because she felt comfortable and safe in that environment. Patience, time, lots of changing positions, walking, dancing, laughing.. all those things, and more, lead to a beautiful vaginal birth, and a healthy 3 kilo baby. 

I love this article, and everything it suggests, and highly recommend it to all my beautiful, pregnant mommies. Click the link below or the picture to read it in full.

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- See more at: http://www.bellybelly.com.au/birth/8-natural-effective-tips-for-stalled-labour/

The Last Days of Pregnancy | Dubai Birth Photography

I remember the last few weeks of January 2015; heavily pregnant, exhausted, and confused why labor hadn't started. Two weeks had passed since my due date. I was terrified something was wrong. Everyone under the sun seemed to be going into labor, except me. I tried everything, to get things going. Nothing worked. I cried almost every day of the last three weeks of my pregnancy. Looking back, I regret it all. But you know what they say, hindsight is 20/20. Now that I know better, it was just not time for me to go into labor. Everyone kept telling me that it will happen when it is meant to, but my nature did not understand that. I had to learn to surrender. I definitely felt like I was in an in-between place, and when I read this article, I couldn't relate more.

Looking back now, I would tell the first time mom version of me to relax, take things easy, enjoy the last few weeks, and not to ignore my feelings, but to not allow them to control my mind to the point of exhaustion. It is absolutely normal to be anxious, specially when on the crux of a big life change, but remember, nobody stays pregnant forever, all good things must come to an end :)

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Alternative Relaxation Techniques During Labor | Dubai Birth Photography

Birth is beautiful and mysterious, and often no two birth situations are exactly the same. As a Dubai Birth Photographer, I have covered a variety of different birth experiences, and I've observed that what can work for one mom during labor, may not necessarily work for another. Personally, for my birth experience, I remember making Pinterest boards with inspirational images and quotes that I kept referring to over and over again. I'm a very visual person, so It really helped! This is where the importance of listening to your body and trusting your instincts come into play. Trust yourself, try different suggestions, and go with what makes you feel the most comfortable.

In this article, are some great suggestions for relaxation techniques that can ease your labor journey. 

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New Evidence That We Just Need To Give Women More Time To Labor | Dubai Birth Photography

The evidence that the article is talking about here is the loosening of the restrictions on time to push the baby. "..first-time moms generally have three hours to push their baby out if they’ve had an epidural, two if they haven’t, and beyond that, they’re thought to be experiencing a prolonged second stage of labor. Healthcare providers may move for a C-section, or an assisted delivery with a vacuum or forceps."

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Pregnancy mythbusting: from ‘eating for two’ to pineapple bringing on labour | Dubai Birth Photographer

How many of these have you tried? Common be honest with me! Click the photo below for the full article.

"Eat red meat or salty food if you want a boy; eat sweets if you want a girl

The idea that there are boy foods (strong, meaty) and girl foods (light, sugary) is basically sexist, but food may influence the sex of the baby. In 2008, scientists found women who had a high-calorie diet prior to conception were slightly more likely to give birth to a boy. Not that wolfing down the calories is recommended (see above).

You can tell the sex of the baby from the shape of the bump ...

The only thing the bump might tell you, bearing in mind that women love to be stared at and commented on, is if it’s a woman’s first pregnancy – in subsequent pregnancies, stomach muscles may be weaker and the baby may be carried lower. The shape of the bump is determined by the size and position of the baby and the body type and muscle tone of the woman.

… and from what you are eating

Again, women are supposed to crave sweet things if they are expecting a girl, and savoury things if it’s a boy. There’s no evidence for this, but how much you eat may be a predictor. Boys tend to be around 100g heavier than girls at birth. In one study of 304 women, those who went on to have male babies had about a 10% higher energy intake during the pregnancy."

Helping your Baby into the Best position at Birth | Dubai Birth Photographer

We've all been told by our mothers growing up to sit up straight, don't slouch, don't lean too far back into your chair. Well, turns out our moms have been absolutely 100% right teaching us to avoid these habits, specially if as moms expecting a baby really soon. Sitting in these positions, specially while pregnant, can have a not so positive effect on the position of the baby inside the uterus. 

Here are some tips on how you can help your baby into an ideal position for birth. Some of these can be done before labor, and many of them can happen also during labor. First and foremost, remember to listen to your body and do what feels natural and comfortable for you while you are laboring. 

Breathe. Relax. And ride those waves Momma, because on the other side is a little baby waiting to be cuddled by you!

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